Mixed Signals

A showing of thoughts or feelings that are very different from each other. 

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Abusers of all kinds can play serious head games, including giving off a lot of mixed signals. Here are just a few examples.....

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My partner loves me . . . he didn’t mean to hurt me. 

Abuse is about power and control. It is not about love. 

My partner promised to get counseling 

Abusers tend to make promises when they feel they are not in control.

When you file charges, you have taken control away from your abuser, who is likely to promise anything to get that control back. 

It is just that my partner was under a lot of stress . . . or drunk.

You can chose to believe that there are reasons, but there can never be a justifiable reason for your abuse.

It will never happen again.

It might. Chances are, it will if your abuser is not held accountable.

It’s really not that bad, we have had great times.